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How Sexy are YOU???!!!! by Priyanka ,  Apr 24, 2013
It's not just about attracting someone — real sexiness is the total confidence that can make you feel smarter, funnier and better in every area of your life. Here's how to be a bit more like that every day.
Have you gotten that feeling of denial when you found out that those guys were not talking about you, but rather your sexy friend? Every woman's been through it before. Those days are long over if you're ready to revamp your style and turn everyone's heads. No matter what your hair color,skin color, body shape, or eye color, you too can become sexier today. But remember- don't ever try to change yourself and who you are for someone else. It's not worth it!
When you feel sexy, you act sexy. (Cut to you being hit on by every dude you walk past.) These tricks will score you a smokin' hot mindset so a foxy vibe practically spills out of you. 
Who says sex appeal ends with your 30th birthday? Sexiness is an attitude that many women exude -
Tossing your hair and licking your lips? Please—amateur night! There are more surprising (and effective) ways to be utterly seductive.
Giambattista Valli Grosgrain dress


Yes, it's that simple. A bit of crimson has the power to put men in a lusty state of mind—one study even found they were 56 percent more likely to ask out a woman in a red top versus a white one. That's because men are hardwired to respond to the hue: The color was used as early as 10,000 B.C. in lip color and blush to mimic the red flush we get when we're turned on. Throw on a red dress and let primal instincts take over.
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A for effort

"Feeling confident about your appearance is the first step to genuine sex appeal," says says Eve Marx, author of Beddington Place: Watch Your Back, Cover Your Tracks and contributor to Give yourself permission to invest in how you look — whether that means a visit to the makeup counter or a new haircut. It'll change what's inside, too.

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Get out of town

Take an art class. Or book a last-minute weekend getaway. "Novelty is the greatest aphrodisiac,"says Sandor Gardos, Ph.D., and founder of When you live in the moment, anything's possible — and that's exciting, and sexy.

Know Your Body and Love It

A confident person is the sexiest kind of person. Knowing your body and what you like makes you the definition of sexy.

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Touch yourself

After a hot shower, massage your body with lotion, instead of just slapping it on. Or give yourself a relaxing neck rub. "I brush my skin with a soft brush every morning when I wake up," says Mary McGuire-Wien of New York City. "It makes my skin feel much more alive." Natural health advocates believe that dry brushing reduces toxins, sloughs off dry skin, and may help fight cellulite.

red lipstick


One study found that the lipstick shades men find most attractive are neutrals or soft pinks. Steer clear of anything Nicki Minaj–inspired and take cues from your natural color, picking something a few shades pinker. Women with fair skin look best in sheer rose (like L'Oréal Paris Infallible Le Rouge lipstick in Eternal Rose). Medium-toned skin pairs well with pinks with brown undertones; sheer formulas (like Clinique Chubby Stick Moisturizing Balm in Bountiful Blush) are extra flattering and hard to overdo. If you have a dark complexion, look for wine-y pinks—one supershiny formula is Lipstick Queen Jean Queen Lip Gloss.
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Change it up

Play up your eyes with a new eyeliner, or try a different gloss on your lips. Or, if you normally go natural, put on heavy mascara. "When you feel beautiful, you feel sensual," says Debbie Mandel, author of Turn On Your Inner Light. Take the extra three or four minutes to primp yourself and feel pretty — just for you.


It's no surprise that anyone would be drawn to a megawatt grin, but what is fascinating is that a smile amps up how sexy you seem, according to a recent study. "A friendly and approachable woman may seem more sexually interested," researchers at the University of British Columbia told Allure. We can't vouch for the science on this part, but a little whitening could be nice, too. We like Crest 3D White 2 Hour Express Whitestrips, which brighten teeth in two hours.

Can't Please Yourself

It isn’t really sexy for most people to be with someone that can’t please themselves. For some, this is actually a major turn off.

Devil May Care

Having said that, a messy hairdo or a makeup free look can be very sexy. He probably loves the look of you in your PJs at the end of the day just as much as when you’re dressed for a social event.

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Move things around

Part your hair on the other side, a teeny move that has a whopping effect. Oh, and every once in a while, you'll have to toss the falling strands back — and you know what the coquettish hair toss does to men

Close-Eyed Kiss

Closing your eyes when you kiss can be very sweet and innocent. Your partner will probably like your shyness and feel like this is something truly special for you both.

BackNextView ThumbnailsGet a blowout...on a random Tuesday. The instant confidence that comes with bouncy, bombshell hair is a huge turn-on. 
BackNextView ThumbnailsFlaunt your assets—even at work. It's pretty much impossible to slouch in heels and a pencil skirt, and standing taller will translate to head-turning smokeshow status.  

Smile More

We’re all for those “come hither” looks and making bedroom eyes but your sexiest look just might be your smile. A happy person is infinitely more attractive!

BackNextView ThumbnailsWhen you're stuck in a crazy-long line, whip out Fifty Shades of Grey or something equally steamy on your eReader. Just a few paragraphs can give you an irresistible turned-on flush
Umberto Beverly Hills Shimmer Shine Spray


Practically nothing about Victoria's Secret models is attainable—except possibly their shiny, soft hair. To achieve Angel-worthy gloss, try these shine-boosting techniques: Condition first, shampoo second. "For hair to be full and bouncy, it has to be free of residue," says hairstylist Nathaniel Hawkins. Then rough-dry hair by raking your fingers through it; if you want sexy volume, you have to embrace a little fluff. And when you think your hair's dry, blast it with heat for another three minutes. "It has to be 100 percent dry, otherwise it will collapse," says Hawkins. Mist a shine spray like Umberto Beverly Hills Shimmer Shine Spray over the whole head and voilá—you're halfway to Gisele.
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All buttoned up

Wearing something with lots of buttons will naturally turn undressing or a wardrobe change into a striptease as you linger over each button.
choose the right perfume


We asked perfumers for the sexiest notes, and they all came back with the same answer: lush flowers, vanilla and amber, and powdery notes. One of our favorite seductive scents is Chanel No. 19 Poudre: French for "powder," this scent's fresh iris root tempers the heady jasmine. Dolce & Gabbana Velvet Sublime, with zesty orange blossom and intoxicating neroli, is warm, like a beach vacation in a bottle. Tom Ford Jasmin Rouge isn't for the faint of heart, or head. Ford tossed in the whole spice cabinet—cardamom, cinnamon, and ginger are sweetened by vanilla and warm amber.
BackNextView ThumbnailsStep out in a bright, summery maxi dress—sans underwear. The style makes it less likely that you'll pull a Britney, and you'll still experience all the tingly feelings when you're hit with a cool breeze.  
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Read something racy

Just knowing you're reading something risqué in public is sure to give you a teeny confidence boost. "Erotic novels give women ideas," says Marx. "They respond to stories that fire up their imagination." Mr. Grey, here we come.

BackNextView ThumbnailsWhile enjoying the awesome summer weather on the beach or in the park, indulge in a few dirty thoughts. Fantasizing in public gives you the same rush you get from PDA. You know, minus the nasty looks from people. 
animate your face


Blinking, nodding, shaking your head: Weird but true that doing a lot of all three can make you more attractive to the average guy. A study found that women with "high-motion faces" (yes, that's actually what they were called) rated as best looking. Researchers at the University of Bristol told Allure it's likely because these moves signal that you're extroverted—and that's sexy.

All Business

No one likes to feel like they’re on a job interview when they’re really on a date. It’s not sexy to constantly talk about work.

Flirty and Fun

It is sexy when you get to have conversations that engage both you and your partner. If it’s a first date, stick to topics that help you relate to them a little better. If it’s a rough patch in a long-term relationship, stick to something that will get them remembering why they fell for you in the first place.

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Get busty

When was the last time you invested in a good bra? “Most women are wearing the wrong bra," Marx says. "Don't be scared to spend money on good lingerie. The right foundation will make you feel like a million bucks."
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Take it slow

Slow-dance. Really close. Fitting together so snugly and swaying in sync is unbelievably sensual and intimate. It's almost like making love.
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Back to black

Wear slightly smudgy black eyeliner for that smoldering temptress look. Appearing slightly unkempt — as if you just had a roll in the hay — is incredibly provocative.

Trying New Things

You are sexiest to your partner when you have an open mind and show that you actually enjoy being intimate with them. Who knows? It just might take on different forms and locations.

Surprise Sex

Unexpected sex is almost always sexy. Does she have an hour-long lunch break she’ll be coming home for? Is he going to be home early today? Make it happen!

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You flirt!

Honestly, when was the last time you really doted on your guy? Forever ago? Well, pretend he's a new beau and chuckle at his jokes, suggestively touch his forearm and make coy comments. You'll feel kittenish — the way you did when you first started dating.
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Go au naturel

Every now and then, take a break from blow drying and styling your hair. That slightly tousled, sexily untamed mane will bring out your wild side.

Always Hidden

It’s good to dress modestly but if you’re always covering everything up -- even during intimate moments with your partner -- that’s going to become a serious problem after a while.

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Act out

Ever wish you were Joan Holloway from Mad Men or Eva Mendez any day of the week? Pretend to be them! "It's fun to get out of your head and role play," Marx says. Next time you're in a funk and want to feel sexier, emulate your favorite leading lady, and feel your confidence skyrocket.

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Underneath it all

Throw away those ripped, faded, you've-had-them-for-four-years granny panties and invest in some new underwear. The sexier, the better — but G-strings aren't required. New bikinis, boy shorts, or even basic briefs can make you feel special.
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Play top chef

Food serves as a wonderful aphrodisiac, and whipping it up in the kitchen with your partner can make it that much sexier. "It's fun to work closely together in tight quarters and taste food off each other's fingers and lips," Marx says.

Keeping a Routine

Wonder where the sparks went in your relationship? It probably happened somewhere around the time you started scheduling sex as a weekend-only activity. It’s hard to make sex stop being sexy, but this is definitely one way to do it.

BackNextView ThumbnailsYou already know to wear red when you want to feel hotter, but choosing the right fabric is just as essential. Experts say textures like silk, leather, and lace can enhance your sensuality. 
BackNextView ThumbnailsSlip in the salon for a pedi and splurge on a foot massage. According to acupuncture specialist Dr. Laurie Binder, pressure points on the foot that boost your sex drive. To DIY, press the center of the sole of your foot for one minute. 
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On Display

On the other hand, dressing too provocatively can make you look very cheap. Few things say “I don’t value myself” louder than someone that has their body completely on display. Ladies, THIS IS NOT SEXY.

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Sweat it out

There are a million reasons to work out — lose weight, lower stress, and yes, boost your sexiness. Sweat releases endorphins, giving you a natural high. "When I feel low, I hit the gym," says Jaime Sarrio, of Nashville. "I feel strong and sexy after a run on the treadmill or a weight-lifting session."

BackNextView ThumbnailsSkip your regular body lotion and opt for coconut oil. Not only does it make you feel (and smell!) like you're on an exotic vacay, but it gives your skin a natural, shimmery glow like a Victoria's Secret model. 
BackNextView ThumbnailsWhen you first get out of bed, spend a few minutes doing yoga. The flexible positions boost blood flow and give you a kick of energy—both of which can increase arousal.

ady in the Streets

There is nothing sexier to a man than a woman that can leave some mystery with the way she dresses but then show it all off for his eyes only when he gets her alone.

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Look him in the eye

"How do you ask for sex," wonders Catherine Cardinal, Ph.D., author of The Ten Commandments of Relationships? “You probably mumble it with downcast eyes — couples make less eye contact as years go by. Look directly at him the next time. It'll remind him of the days when he couldn't take his eyes off you."

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Hand over foot

Get in touch with your body by treating yourself to a sensual foot massage. You have thousands of nerve endings in your feet, and stimulating every one will send bolts of electricity through you. Start with your thumbs in the center of the bottom of your foot and walk them up toward your big and pinkie toes so they're gradually moving away from each other. Then, alternating thumbs, stroke along your arch. Finally, massage each toe, rubbing from bottom to top while pulling it slightly and rotating it in a circle.
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Tie game

Don't get dressed right after taking a shower. Instead, lounge around in a robe that's loosely belted and occasionally gives him a peep show when you move. Kind of naked but temptingly draped, you'll ooze sex appeal.

At a Distance

Staying at a distance or avoiding touching your partner altogether will make you seem cold and uninterested. Remember that most of what we say is non-verbal communication so close the gap already!

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Lace up

Just because it's winter and you're all bundled up doesn't mean you can't expose yourself a little. "Invest in nice tights," Marx says. "Great hosiery is a boost to feeling sexy."
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Plan a girls night out

"When I do something just for me, it's easier to remember who I was before I was a wife and mom," says Megan Barner, of Charlotte, NC. "After I spend time with friends, my husband says I come back a new woman.


One of the sexiest moments is when you cross the barrier of touch with your partner. Gently caress his arm and give him a flirty look. Move your hand to the center of her back as you walk with her. They won’t be able to resist.

Touchy Feely

Your partner will like that you like to touch them but be careful about how much you do this. Too much contact, especially too early, will make you seem clingy and desperate and there is nothing sexy about that!

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Peep show

Don a silky cream-colored bra (no padding, please). Your guy will go gaga seeing the outline of your nipples through the glossy, smooth material – and it'll be a whole lot more comfortable than some lacy number.
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Double your pleasure, double your fun

"Add the element of doubling," says Barbara Keesling, author of The Good Girl’s Guide to Bad Girl Sex. "Hold his kiss for twice as long. Take twice as much time to unbutton every button."

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Light up your night

Light a scented candle in your den or break out those candlesticks for a romantic dinner. Candlelight casts a warm, cozy glow over everything and everyone in the room and is so much more flattering than harsh lightbulbs. You will — literally and figuratively — see yourself in a new light.

You Want Them to Please You

There is a difference between someone that can please themselves but prefers to do so with their partner and someone that can’t. It’s so sexy to be with someone that wants to be with only you even though they don’t actually need you.

Staring Them Down

When you kiss, if you stare at your partner, it quickly goes from being sexy and intimate to creepy and awkward. Remember, eye contact CAN be sexy but be careful not to stare.

Brief Eye Contact

If you maintain brief eye contact just before going in for a kiss, your partner will find this very sexy and inviting. It shows that you mean business and want to enjoy it.

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Bring out the memories

Joanne Rock, of Peru, NY, creates lustful playlists that remind her of when she was falling in love with her husband. "Hearing those tunes sends my thoughts to sexy places," she says. Or take out photos from when you two first started dating. Remember that wanton lust that overcame both of you? Trust us, it's still there.
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Don't try too hard

"It's unreasonable to expect that everything you do has to be sexy," Marx says. "We are sexual beings, but we shouldn't be 'on' or turned on all the time. Sexy feelings are supposed to be special." Every woman needs those days where she gives in to impossible to manage hair, worn out sweats, and a big bowl of popcorn.
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Looking good

We're conditioned to scrutinize every imperfection of our bodies, so giving yourself a reaffirming reality check can do big things. Stand in your prettiest, most confidence-giving dress in front of a full-length mirror and focus on the things you really love about yourself: your strong thighs, shiny hair, or full chest.
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Ditch the sweats

They're comfy! They're cozy! They have no waist! But a hot outfit they are not. "If sweats have become your standard after-work uniform, then you are unlikely to feel sexy," says Sari Locker, the author of The Complete Idiot's Guide to Amazing Sex. You don't have to wear fishnets, "but buy some clothes that make you feel sexy when you're lounging, even if that's just a camisole and leggings."


  • Don't be afraid to try out new looks. Make sure you feel comfortable in what you're wearing, but don't be afraid to experiment. Once you get settled into a look that suits you, you'll exude confidence and stand apart from the crowd.
  • Be happy! Guys (And Girls!!) love that, and you will too.
  • Don't ever forget to stray from who you are inside. Although you may try to be someone else. People in general are more attracted and interested in the real you. Faking doesn't help anyone--and certainly not you.
  • Drink plenty of water each day. It'll help your skin, your diet, and help you feel great.
  • Believe that you ARE sexy, you ARE gorgeous, you ARE beautiful. (Because you really, truly are.)
  • Try to relax if you can!
  • Remember that beauty attracts beauty, confidence attracts confidence, and maturity attracts maturity. If you want a good catch, be a good catch. If you concentrate on your own happiness, happy people will find their way to you.
  • Posture has a lot to do with being sexy as well. If you feel confident and walk tall, everyone else will think so too. And it's just healthier, in general.
  • Maintain class. Being sexy isn't about wearing small or revealing clothing or behaving promiscuously; being sexy is about being comfortable in your own skin.
  • Don't stress about your looks! You look fabulous. If you do need to check and see, go ahead and excuse yourself. The mini-mirror can wait!
  • It doesn't matter if you're larger than most girls. You don't have to look like everyone else to be beautiful. (Chubby gals are cuter 'n cute too!)
  • Having a boyfriend or girlfriend whom you love is a good thing, but being sexy and single is good, too. Don't obsess over your love life.
  • Be sincere when you smile at people.
  • Treat yourself like a queen/princess...don't wait for a guy to do it. Love yourself.
  • Meditation. This isn't key but it helps you feel great and will boost your confidence. You can do this maybe once a week.
  • More than anything, Be your true self. Being sexy is about being confident and comfortable and tell yourself you look sexy to feel sexy.
  • Cocoa or Shea butter is really good for normal to dry skin because it makes your body smooth and soft. Face masks and good moisturizers are also good, be sure to get one that doesn't clog your pores and matches your skin type.Also coconut milk is good for your hair.
  • If you like someone and they aren't into your style, don’t try to imitate what they like. It will make you feel bad, and it won't work for long. If he or she doesn't like you for who you are then find someone else.
  • Don't be afraid to show some skin! But always keep it classy.
  • Be sure to make eye contact
  • Being very confident and having a high self esteem can help you to be more sexy.
  • Always be yourself. What is feminine to one woman might be different to another. Find out what you're comfortable with.


  • Don't be dirty or sloppy.
  • Don't be judgmental of others.
  • Don't drink or smoke too much. Be moderate.
  • Don't be loud, rude, obnoxious, or disrespectful.

Things You'll Need

  • Confidence
  • Courtesy
  • Don't be self obsessed!
  • Willpower