Knowing how to attract men can be summed up in three areas, which we will cover in this article. The easiest way to attract men is to get rid of your “needy vibe” that comes across as desperation.
Unfortunately men can pick up on the signs, but the good news is there are many things you can do about it which means that before you know it, you will have attractive men throwing themselves at you just by applying some simple tips.
Learning how to be attractive to men doesn’t always involve rejection, women seem to believe that men will somehow reject them if they speak to them or attempt to ignite some attraction. But that couldn’t be further from the truth, men are more shocked that anything else – so use this to your advantage and start chatting to the guys you like, who knows you could find love in the strangest places.
Desperation stems from feeling out of control in a situation, and is comes from the panic you feel when you put too much importance on finding a man.
The trick to attracting men is to make sure you value all the other areas of your life (for example your job, your family, your friends, your hobbies, etc) just as highly as you value having a man in your life.
Keeping an equal weighting on every area makes you a more interesting person and a better conversationalist.
It will make you feel more confident about yourself and more laid back in social situations which is attractive to any man!
Many women who come across to men as being desperate have a tendency to approach a man or walk into a relationship thinking 6 months ahead.
Unfortunately men can sense this expectation a mile away and it terrifies them! What men want isn’t the same as women, so you need to understand their needs from an emotional standpoint.
When thinking about how to attract men, don’t forget that they do not want to feel like your happiness lies in their hands or that you are living your life through them.
Take pro-active steps towards your own projects on a daily basis which will help you not to panic about the future and keep the feeling of being in control.
We’ve interviewed many men on what women do that makes them look desperate when they are out and why that is such a turn off.
You may already be aware of a number of these, but it doesn’t hurt to be reminded of them! Firstly, when you’re out with your friends do not laugh excessively at every joke men make, dance too sexily or get too drunk!
You don’t want to look like you are trying too hard to impress!
When you are talking to a man stay calm and don’t feel the need to talk too much.
There is no need to iron out the awkward silences, as there is nothing wrong with conversational pauses so let the lulls occur and give him time to think.
Also, take care not get caught talking about your past relationships (this is where staying sober can help)!
The quickest solution to finding a man really is to focus on handling the other areas of your life and having a lifestyle that you really enjoy. When you do this, you’ put yourself in control of your own happiness and will effortlessly attract great men into your life.
So there you have it, understanding how to attract men in any situation really comes down to not being so needy, so watch out for that.
Tip #1: Make Scent Your Strong Point
"A recent study at Oxford University revealed that when men were shown a woman's headshot, they rated her as more attractive when the photo was presented along with a pleasant scent," says Suzy McCoppin, columnist for Playboy and dating and sex expert. "Smell is linked to memory more than any other sense, so you want to be unforgettable." Before you leave for your date, spritz your favorite perfume all over, even in unexpected places like underneath your hair and on your lingerie. "Give him a good reason to want to kiss you everywhere—even your ankles," says McCoppin. "Imagine him unstrapping your stilettos and having your perfume waft up to greet him. I recommend trying one of Playboy's new fragrances Play It Lovely, Play It Sexy, or Play It Spicy. These fragrances provide women with the confidence and attitude to feel irresistible."
Men are crazy about vanilla, strawberry and other yummy food-related smells because they find them comforting, so spray away with a perfume like Angel by Thierry Mugler. To see if your current fragrance passes the come-hither test, delve into these seductively sweet scents or try a flirty date-night perfume to pull him in.
Tip #2: Get Your Glow On
Add some body shimmer to your lotion after you shower. (Try Victoria's Secret Brilliant All-Over Shimmer Powder; $14) "The flecks capture the light and create a youthful, sexy glow," says McCoppin. If you're wearing a low-cut top, don't forget to brush a bronzer on your décolletage— the contour will make your cleavage more defined.
Tip #3: Commit to a Pre-Date Workout
"Strength training, especially ab work, will make you a bit sore in all the right places, and you'll feel tighter, firmer, and more confident," says McCoppin. "Also, make sure you stand up straight. Good posture is slimming, coveys confidence, and makes your stomach look flatter and your chest appear larger."
Tip #4: Strut Your Stuff
"Have you ever seen a gorgeous woman stand up, and when she walks she stomps around like a Clydesdale? You need to perfect your walk," says McCoppin. "A good walk is vastly underrated as a means of seduction. Always keep in mind: You're a graceful, powerful, woman. But at the same time, don't overdo it. You're not on a runway!"
Tip #5: Say It Like You Own It
"Using positive affirmations may sound dorky, but it works," says McCoppin. "Anything you say out loud, the unconscious mind digests as truth. So if you say over and over again, 'I'm lovely, sexy and amazing,' you'll start to believe it." And if you start to believe that about yourself, you'll have a way better shot at getting Jake over in the accounting department to notice you.
When it comes to men and their levels of attraction, they are based on a few factors:
• Physical attraction
• Mental attraction
• Social attraction
• Physical attraction
No, that’s not a typo. Physical attraction is mentioned twice on purpose, but we’ll get to that later. First, let’s look at physical attraction in general. Men are biologically made to notice a woman’s appearance. It’s no coincidence that beautiful women sell magazines and why movies depicting beautiful women sell out at the box office. Sex sells and beauty sells, and it’s all because of biology. Men’s DNA is designed to go after the most biologically viable female. That means he is looking for a woman who will make healthy babies.
While that may sound animalistic and impersonal, it’s a biological fact. Therefore, it’s no wonder why you, as a woman, dress up before you go out. You’ll shave your legs, wax your eyebrows, use special bras to push your boobs together, put make up on your face, do your hair and wear lots of great smelling perfume. Why do you do this? You do it to attract a man. Because you know a man is always going to be attracted to the physical first.
However, the physical isn’t the only thing that attracts a man. If you’re not the best looking woman on the planet, and you don’t have the best body, you can still attract men. You can do it by playing on their mental attraction levels. This is where you constantly keep him guessing and you never let him onto to how you truly feel about him.
Building and maintaining mental attraction can best be accomplished by teasing him, flirting with him and then ignoring him, making a date with him and then cancelling or postponing that date, etc. If he’s constantly put off balance, he will go crazy for you and will pursue you more than ever. You must keep him hooked, however, which is done by showing him attention, flirting with him and even turning him on, then pulling away. This trick works like a charm and even if he’s not that physically attracted to you. Of course there must be at least some physical attraction for this to work, but even if it’s only a little he will go crazy with desire when you play on his mental attraction levels.
Social attraction is where you always have something going on. When he calls, tell him you were busy with a club you attend, or you were out with friends. A man never wants to know that you’re just home sitting by the phone waiting for him to call. He wants to know that you’re desired by other men. He wants to know that you have friends and that you go out with those friends. The thing is that most men don’t know they want this. But if you can make it appear as though your calendar is always full, and that you don’t have a lot of time for him, he will go crazy with desire. He’ll make it his personal goal to implant himself into your social life. Your job is just to give him attention and then pull away because you’re too busy. Create the right balance, and you’ll have him eating out of the palm of your hand.
Finally, there’s physical attraction again. It’s included twice on the list because it’s so important when it comes to men and attraction levels. So if you want to get that man you’ve got your sights on, make sure you’re what he’s looking for physically. That doesn’t mean you have to look like a model. It just means taking care of yourself and making yourself look desirable. If you can accomplish that, you’ll be able to create attraction in any man you have your eye on.
Attract Men by Using These 3 Magnetic Qualities
Know what it takes to attract men, and then build it inside yourself until it becomes a natural part of you. Pure supernatural magnetism takes technique.
Since cuffing season is in full affect I found Your Tango’s 5 Flirting Tips For Attracting Men:
These are few tricks to be followed to attract a guy and make him fall in love with. The first thing you should keep in mind is self confidence, confidence that you have the power to attract anyone in world, trust yourself that whatever you are doing is right
1. You pay attention to what he is saying just listen to his view point, this will realize him that you like talking him and give importance to him. If he is upset make him smile to show that you care about him. Talk about his likes and dislikes
2. Try to be little different from other women rather than talking about boring home stuff you should talk about his problems and other stuff related to him and it will be better if you talk about love and romance this will make him desperate to talk you more
3. No matter how you look, what you are, how stupid, crazy you are just be yourself. He can never fall in love with you if he doesn't know your actual identity. Never try to be fake. Feel yourself to be the best person of world that doesn't mean you have to be loud. Guys like girls full of confidence
4. Try to have a good sense of humor. Make efforts to bring smile on his face rather than talking about serious matters, this may annoy him. Try to flirt with him this may change his mood and develop some feeling for you
5. Try to buildup your personal magnetism and for these good textured clothes will help you out, make yourself as beautiful as you can
6. Try to make yourself a great person with a motivating, cheerful, caring, nature. Never talk about some other guy in front of the guy you like. First try to a friend and than a lover, this will give you time to understand each other