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Tips to Keep Your Wife Happy by Priyanka ,  May 19, 2013

A married man can be happy when there is harmony and contentment at his home. And that’s possible only when his relationship with his wife is smooth and pleasant.

Here I am sharing some very easy things that every husband should follow to maintain a healthy relation with his wife and thus make their married life happy and tension free.

  • Be a true gentleman to your wife. Women are like a fragile vessel, treat and take care of this vessel gently.
  • Advise her when needed but in a peaceful environment.
  • Be generous to your wife – it keeps her loved.
  • Look good and smell great for your wife!
  • Don’t be rigid. It will break you.
  • Listen to your wife – be a good listener.
  • Say YES to flattering NO to arguing. Arguing is like poison in a marriage.
  • Call your wife with the best name, any name she loves to hear.
  • Give her pleasant surprises often with gifts and things she loves.
  • TELL her you appreciate her. SHOW your appreciation to her.
  • Encourage her to keep good relation with your and her relatives, parents etc.
  • Speak to her with a topic of HER interest. Conversation is the root to the success of every relationship.
  • Think good of your spouse.
  • Ignore some of her mistakes – pretend you did not see/hear some of her small mistakes. It’s like putting a hole in your memory. Don’t save it in your memory!
  • Expect and respect her jealousy.
  • Be humble.
  • Don’t put your friends above your wife.
  • Help your wife at home chores, taking care of children etc.
  • Exchange warm smiles with your wife. It works.
  • Small problems/challenges can become a big problem. Or if there is small thing she didn’t like and you keep repeating them anyway, it will create a wall between you. Don’t ignore them as it can become big.
  • Avoid being harsh hearted and moody.
  • Respect her thinking. It’s strength for you. Show you like her thoughts and suggestions.
  • Help her to achieve her potential and help her to dig and find success within as her success is your success.
  • Spend quality time with her e.g. eat food or watch TV together.
  • Know her rights.
  • Show you care.
  • Don’t think you are always right. No matter how good you are, you have shortcomings. You are not perfect.
  • Share your problems, your happiness, and your sadness with her.
  • Remember you are her (and she is your) strength, someone to lean on in times of hardship.
  • Accept her the way she is.

Overall some effortless efforts that, if kept in mind always and followed, can keep many of your home problems at bay for sure.

Express your love!

I know what you’re thinking: “But I do show my love! I bought her a…” Stop right there. Unfortunately, material gifts and even the amount of time and energy you spend helping go right over some women’s heads. Many women don’t truly feel loved unless they hear the “I love you” fairly frequently.

No, your wife hasn’t forgotten all the nice things you’ve done; she just thinks maybe your feelings have changed since then. Yeah, that’s right: since yesterday. See, the thing is women continually re-assess their relationships. Men tend to get comfortable and assume if there are no fights, then everything’s dandy. That’s exactly how so many guys get blindsided by break ups introduced with “Honey, we need to talk.”

So go ahead and tell her in so many words that you love her. If you have a hard time saying it, write a little note and slip it in her wallet or stick it on the bathroom mirror. If that’s still a little to awkward for you, make a point of thanking her for something routine like making dinner or acknowledging something she’s done well.

Listen!

Imagine starting an important conversation with your wife only to notice her staring into space as you talk. Wouldn’t you feel a little rejected? This is the same situation a lot of women face with their boyfriends or husbands, who often don’t even notice they’re spacing out. When you’re wife talks, try to put aside what you’re doing and really listen.

That doesn’t mean you aren’t allowed to have some quiet time to yourself, though. Whether you’re trying to finish a report for work the next day or just want to watch the game, if you gently explain that you’d rather have the chat at a later time, a real lady will give you your space.

Use honesty wisely!

As much as we may want to believe honesty is the best policy, anyone with a little life experience will tell you it isn’t always. While outright lies are a no-no, a little tact and diplomacy can go a long way towards keeping peace in the house.

What that means is the correct answer to “Do I look fat in this?” is not “No, you look 10 pounds lighter,” but something like “Can’t say. You look good to me no matter what you wear.” Sound corny? Try it sometime and I bet you’ll like the result.

Being tactful doesn’t mean you should keep quite about things that really bother you, though. It’s better to bring problems to light in than let your resentment simmer and risk blowing up at her one day.

When both partners are willing have a little patience and keep an open mind, love relationships don’t have to been filled with frustration and drama. Get some good relationship advice for men, from the right source and your relationships should be smooth sailing from here on out.

If you wish to learn the rules, tricks and techniques of how to be a good husband, then you must read on.

  • Remember the vows that you have taken at the time of your wedding, each and every day. That helps you to be what you should be!
  • Respect the woman you have married, for the woman she is.
  • Understand her needs and requirements, because that is the best way to figure out how to keep your wife happy. If she’s happy, you automatically become a good husband.
  • Come to terms with the fact that she is not perfect and neither are you. Both of you have a lot to learn about each other and life. This is one thing that makes a big difference, so no matter what, always keep this in mind!

These are the basic foundations, on which a strong marriage can be built. Efforts need to be made from both sides, the husband’s as well as the wife’s, because both are equal partners in the relationship. However, both of them have different roles to play, which is why, quite often, sound relationship adviceis required, right at the start of the union.

In contrast, more times than not, we notice that relationships start to go downhill, after a few years of being together. This could happen after the arrival of children or just a loss on interest in the relationship as well as each other. It is in times like this, that you, as a husband, would want to know how to get your wife back to being the sultry seductress that she used to be, during your days of courtship.

  • Try and keep the romance alive, with occasional dates and nights out.
  • Make her day special by sending flowers without an occasion.
  • Help her out with her day to day routines, allowing her to have more time for herself.
  • Give her gifts that she will cherish and enjoy – a day at the spa would have her all glowing for you!
  • Tell her how much you love her, each day- that is one thing, most of the men usually forget to do. This is one small thing that can have a great impact on your relationship.

While you might have the finest relationship advice, what is all the more important is how you work on the same! You need to make sure that you figure out where it is that you are going wrong, and work on rectifying the same.

At the end of the day, you are the man in the union that we call marriage and all said and done, you have greater responsibilities. When you marry a woman, you are promising her as well as her family that you will take care of her, no matter what the situation may be. In such a scenario, the relationship advice you would need would include several factors that need to be inculcated within your very personality. Some of these would be:

  • Men are providers- The ability to work hard in order to provide for your wife and family.
  • Reliability- There has to be a big amount of trust, with a willingness to listen.
  • Acceptability- There is absolutely nothing wrong in accepting when you are wrong and being forgiving when someone else is at fault.
  • Loyalty- A sense of loyalty, towards your wife, your family and your children is crucial.
  • Priority- Once you are married, your family should be your first priority.

Apart from these traits, women also like their husbands to be kind, gentle, affectionate and at times, spontaneous! Communicate with your wife and find out what kind of man she needs you to be, and then, without a doubt or fear in your mind, be that man!

Being a feminist, it is strange what work makes you do. I wrote the following article for my former workplace. Not my personal perspective, just read and get entertained! 

For women it is- First a friend, then a beloved, later a wife! For male species; First a friend, then a lover, later a slave! A man sees no progression after he bears the tag of a husband. For all those husbands who have failed to understand the deterioration in their love relationship with the opposite sex owing to the traditional bond called marriage, read this. Please take a few seconds off your confused domestic lives and run your eyes through the above remedies to keep your marriage alive and your wife happy.

She has the same problem 
So, years after marriage when you sit and contemplate in the lonely corner of your house over the changed scenario of your marriage, understand that things are no different with your wife. Beware asking the question, “Things have changed between us?” You dare put that in front of your wife, and she will bombard you with innumerable similar sentiments she has been going through for weeks. So, shut up, accept the fact that marriages transform relationships and move on!

All hear no say 
An anonymous writer quoted “I had some words with my wife, and she had some paragraphs with me”. Indeed his anonymous status would have helped him buy some domestic peace! Nevertheless, as beautiful, caring and passionate wives are, god forgot to lend them ears! You start the sentence, she finishes it. It is very important that you are a good listener because the amount of shit she has to offer you under the tag of “sharing”, well let’s just say it never ends. So, pretend to lend your ears, switch off and make your wife happy! Because for her, happiness comes with you listening, and she chattering.

Gulp the fury 
When a wife loses her cool, she wins the argument; but when a husband loses his cool, he loses everything. A serious enlightening advice to all married men out there, kindly refrain from acting super- smart even if you are right. The moment you take your nuptial vows, delete the word argue from your vocabulary. Switch off your self-respect bulb and you are to be harmed less. If you dare to argue over what she says, in a second the argument will change its course and lead to another argument which has its crucks in “You don’t love, care or understand me anymore. So, the saying “A good wife always forgives her husband when she is wrong”, was written for all you male mates! Let her ego be nurtured.

Act to understand 
The wives feed on understanding husbands. If at all you want your wife to limit her anger and insecurity, pretend to be extremely understanding, even though you don’t get head or tail of what she is blabbering. Especially those seven days a month, you try and attempt something to make her happy, and she will discover a completely outrageous reason to accuse you of noble deed which is your innocent attempt to make her smile. Hence, learn to use “I understand” for every single line. Even if she says “I want to shit”, you say “I understand”.

Let the love flow 
The inflow of love, gifts, expensive gifts and excessive gifts should keep coming. Do not accuse your wife of spending grands on absolutely unnecessary things; because if you do so, you are the inadequate husband who can’t even provide for your wife’s “petty needs”. Always surprise her, treat her with all the respect even though she pisses all over you and follow her actions. Remember- only because a dog cannot fulfil her financial obligation, she is marrying you! If you learn that, you got all the tips to keep your wife happy. 

So, guzzle down the above tips, say bye bye to your conscience, and you have your bitter (oops I meant better) half grinning if not smiling!
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